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One empowered woman's struggle against the world
Monday August 19th 2019

The Storms Have Passed For Now

mom says

Well seems like the storms are at bay and I can finally get back to writing my daily post.  I am physically back but mentally I am not here.  I have written this same paragraph over about four times now.  There has been a great deal that has happened since I was last here, I just don’t know where to start.  Maybe something cute.

I got owned by my 8 year old the other day.  While I was working on my legal case I came across information and law I needed to help prove my case.  I was ecstatic and I was singing a silly little song about being a smarticle particle.  Yes I know smarticle is not a word but it was my song and it worked for me.  The kids got annoyed with it pretty quickly so don’t expect to see it on an album in stores anywhere soon.  My 8 year old was shaking his head once again and I told him I should record the song and we could make a forutnate, he disagreed.  I asked if it was my voice or lack of ability to carry a decent tune and surprisinly he said no.  He said, “I can see you” and I didn’t get it so I asked for an explanation.  He then explained that I couldn’t record that particular song because he could see me and you can’t see a particle so in fact I couldn’t be a smarticle particle.  Smart kid, sometimes too smart.


I spent over a week discussing and debating the new full body x-ray scanner and the new pat-down procedures introduced by the Transportation Security Administration (TSA) into the airports.  I used to work for TSA so it was an interesting debate.  I would love to say it was all civil but unfortunately I can’t.  Some people feel the best way to get their point across is to curse and say nasty things.  I guess that could work but in most cases it doesn’t.  I am not surprised that the debate seemed to have died overnight and the fervor and uproar went away as well.  Every time TSA introduces some new procedure people get upset and annoyed, sometimes rightfully so, but as in the past it gets accepted and people move on.

I was invited to do several interviews on the subject but having my legal case pending against TSA, I didn’t think it was in my best interest even though I generally agree with most of what TSA is doing.  I did end up doing two interviews, one over the phone and one on the radio.  My kids thought it was the greatest thing on the planet so it was worth it to see them happy over it.

I have been told by several people that there is a bill in Congress to stop TSA’s new procedures but I sincerely hope people are not pinning their hopes on that bill passing.  The bill they are speaking of was introduced by Ron Paul and is called “American Traveller Dignity Act” (H.R. 6416).  Now if you look at the specific wording it basically removes the immunity Federal employees have that allow them to require you to let them touch as a condition for getting on the plane.  He even includes that a person can’t waive it.  Along with the no touching is not being allowed to use the x-ray scanners or any scanners that would produce a nude or near nude image.

This sounds great for all the people who are against the nearly nude images and the pat-down.  But wait, hold on, let us think about this for just a minute.  The bill doesn’t change the actual rules so bombs, guns, knives and all the other prohibited items still wouldn’t be allowed on the plane.  The bill only takes away TSA’s ability to require you to allow them to touch you.  So here is a typical passenger going through the airport, tell me if you can spot the problem:

Passenger walks up to metal detector and is told to remove all the metal items from his/her pockets.  Passenger agrees and does so.  Then passenger walks through the metal detector.  The metal detector goes off, there is an alarm.  What happens next?

Do you see the problem?  Normally, TSA would send that passenger over for a pat-down, touching them to clear the alarm and allow the passenger to proceed on to their plane.  If this new bill becomes law, TSA can’t touch you so how do they clear the alarm?  I guess they don’t and that passenger is refused and sent away not able to fly.  Now imagine if you were pregnant and can’t go through the metal detector and TSA can’t touch you.  How can you get cleared to get on to the plane?  You can’t so guess pregnant women don’t fly now.  How about people with pacemakers, or metal implants, or prosthetic, or children and adults with medical equipment attached to their bodies or wheelchair bound passengers who can’t physically walk through the metal detector?  Guess all those people don’t fly either.

I am just suggesting that you really look at what the bill says and not focus so much on what Ron Paul says.  Politicians are great at making the public believe they are working for them but look at the bill itself and see exactly what it says before you readily accept what is coming out of a politicians mouth.

TSA The Legal Side

I have spent the last two weeks working on my response to their motion for summary judgement.  Briefly, a motion for summary judgment is where on side tells the court that there are no facts in dispute and essentially no reason to even be there or go in front of a jury.  If the court agrees the case dies, if the court disagrees the case moves forward to a jury.  They get to ask for summary judgment and then I get to defend against it and tell the court why I believe the other side is wrong.  I can’t just tell them I believe this I have to show them evidence to support my belief.

I had actually finished my response early which was awesome and then at the last minute I came across some very valuable information and law.  I had to rewrite the entire response more than once.  It was crazy and stressful but in the end worth it.  I am pretty good under pressure it is just after the pressure is gone that I fall apart.  This has been going on for 3 years now and the stress of it is just overwhelming at times.  The mere mention of TSA can send me into minor depression, triggers migraines, phantoms pains and other physical responses.  So along with doing all the work I have to cope with the responses to all the stress.  Not fun and I wouldn’t recommend or advise it for anyone.

Now that I am done and sent in my response, the other side gets one more opportunity to respond to my response before the judge makes a decision.  I believe I won’t have any sort of decision until at least mid-December.  The wait for the decision is almost as bad as all the work.  I do have a settlement conference coming up so maybe there will be some sort of settlement.  It has been three years though and the other side hasn’t even come close to considering settling so I am not putting a whole lot of stock into this settlement conference.  I will go with an open-mind and see what happens.

Breastfeeding In Public

I did a brief interview segment on the BBC World Service News about this topic.  It was largely related to pictures of breastfeeding women being removed from Facebook and a group that has formed in support of breastfeeding and being allowed to post the pictures on Facebook.  I am not in favor of the pictures on Facebook and believe Facebook acted accordingly.  We have been debating breastfeeding and breastfeeding in public in the forums for a few days now over it.

It has been a very civil debate for the most part which is great as I have seen some degenerate very rapidly into name calling and nastiness.  I see why some women feel the need to breastfeed in public but that doesn’t mean I have to agree with it in its entirety.  I strive for a middle ground that gives both sides what they want for the most part but it seems both side want all or nothing.  Maybe it would be easier to say all or nothing but I just believe it is a big world and we should strive to get along.  Not have this my way or else attitude about a lot of things not just this one issue.  Like spanking is an all or nothing debate as well.  They leave no room for something in the middle.  I am one who believes spanking should be used in certain context but certainly not in every context but there is no room for that kind of thinking.  No middle ground, each side wants their way and their way only.

There are so many issues out there that women, men and parents face and this my way only thinking is counter productive.  There should be a middle ground.  There should be a side that gets to say I agree with some and not all of both sides.  Why this is unreasonable thinking is beyond me but it seems to be in all the debates.


I spent Thanksgiving with my parents and my children.  It was wondeful.  My mom did all the cooking, I offered to help but she said no.  She did let the kids help at the end though.  She did a great job and the food was fantastic as always.  We hung around for a bit and talked about things going on in our lives.  My parents live 3 miles away from me so we see each other and talk quite a bit normally.  Of course my dad had the football games on to watch, can’t have Thanksgiving without football.  The kids helped take down the Thanksgiving decorations so that was really good of them.

I have had the kids home all week as they are given the entire week off for the Thanksgiving Day holiday.  Notice how I say DAY, I don’t get why they need an entire week off but it is what it is.  When I was growing up we got Thanskgiving Day (Thursday) and the next day (Friday) off and that was it.  Kids think they have it so hard today, they have no clue.  For the most part they have been great and have kept any sibling fighting to a minimum.  Two of the boys father got a new Playstation 3 game so they have spent a few days down there playing the game.

Back To Work

The week is now over, the storms are at bay for now and I can finally get back to my normal schedule.  The kids return to school tomorrow and I can get back to working on the site full-time.  This working at home thing is a tough act to balance.  It is far too easy to get side tracked and end up not putting in the full time that is needed.  The Wii is fixed now as well, it was broken until tonight, so I will have to resist the temptation to go play while they are in school instead of working.  I can play when they are home but then I have to share, mommy doesn’t always like to share.

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2 Responses to “The Storms Have Passed For Now”

  1. Mino says:
    People used to think it was necessary to “spank” adult members of the community, college students, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual battery if a person over the age of 18 is “spanked”, but only if over the age of 18.

    For one thing, because the buttocks are so close to the sex organs, anal region, and so multiply linked to sexual nerve centers, striking them can trigger powerful and involuntary sexual stimulus in some people. There are numerous physiological ways in which it can be intentionally or unintentionally sexually abusive, but I won’t list them all here. One can read the testimony, documentation, and educational resources available from the website of Parents and Teachers Against Violence In Education at

    Child bottom-slapping/battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

    Child bottom-slapping/battering (euphemistically labeled “spanking”,”swatting”,”switching”,”smacking”, “paddling”,or other cute-sounding names) for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

    Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

    There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping/battering isn’t a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

    Plain Talk About Spanking
    by Jordan Riak

    The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
    by Tom Johnson

    by Lesli Taylor MD and Adah Maurer PhD

    Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping/battering isn’t a good idea:

    American Academy of Pediatrics,
    American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
    American Psychological Association,
    Center For Effective Discipline,
    Churches’ Network For Non-Violence,
    Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
    Parenting In Jesus’ Footsteps,
    Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
    United Nations Committee on the Rights of the Child.

    In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

    The US states with the highest crime rates and the poorest academic performance are also the ones with the highest rates of child corporal punishment.

    There is simply no evidence to suggest that child bottom-slapping/battering instills virtue.

    • mom says:
      I disagree with you using pictures of children who have been beaten and equate it with spanking. I usually will leave all comments but that is even more than I can take. It is extremely false and wrong to equate spanking with that kind of beating. If you want to call spanking hitting that is fine even though it is not accurate either. Your view on spanking is certainly welcome but I will not tolerate those kind of extremes being put forth as what spanking is by any definition.

      I am not going to get into a debate over spanking here. I have written one thing on it and am actually working on a second more in-depth article on it. Please do not post any more links to photos of children that have been beaten or audio files of them being beaten and equate that with spanking here. They will be removed.

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