No sooner do I get done applauding a parent for creatively addressing her son’s failing grades and general lack of concern for getting an education; I read about a teacher who called out students on her personal blog and was suspended for it. The reasoning against doing both of those things is the sake of a child’s self-esteem according to the “experts”. Seriously, people need to get over this theory that children just needs love, kisses, hugs and rainbows in their lives as children to be successful adults.
Daily and I mean daily, parents attack and blame teachers for kids not getting educated. These parents don’t blame their own kids because goodness forbid we put the blame squarely where the blame belongs – on the kids. This teacher didn’t name the kids specifically, but I wouldn’t blame her if she did, she spoke in general terms. Parents are allowed to criticize teachers and name them so why shouldn’t teachers be allowed to criticize students and parents?
The “experts” complain about the embarrassment and how it will damage the kids self-esteem and they will just fall into ruins. Get over it. Kids today are over indulged and think they are entitled to everything. They shouldn’t have to earn grades by doing the work and turning it in on time, no no that is just wrong of teachers to expect. These teachers should allow them to turn work in late and get full credit. These teachers should throw out bad grades, grade on curve, make test easy and just hand kids the grade if the kid shows up for class.
Kids today and not just teenagers, middle-schoolers and elementary school kids are not the polite and respectful kids of my day. There were always one or two kids causing trouble but the majority of kids in my day were respectful of teachers. Spend a day volunteering in a classroom and you will hear cursing, open discussions about drugs and sex, see kids texting and on their electronic devices doing goodness knows what. They certainly aren’t doing what they are suppose to be doing and that is getting an education.
Parents and the community blame the teachers and the school system. Teachers blame the students, parents and the school system. Most of us can logically see that the school system is to blame by everyone. Teachers only have so much authority in their classrooms. Teachers are there to teach not police students but can’t teach because they have to spend time policing the students. Teachers are there to educate children and give them knowledge. Teachers are not there to teach manners, responsibility and respect that is a parents job. It takes both teachers and parents to get a child educated.
As for this teacher, she did nothing wrong in my book. If the parents of these kids are not going to deal with the fact that their child is not getting an education because of their own child and blame the teachers; well the teachers should have every right to voice their opinion and defend the job they are trying to do. A job that offers little pay in comparison with the responsibilities placed on teachers. Kids are lazy, rude, disrespectful and feel entitled to whatever they want and in the moment they want it. If their parents won’t deal with it, then I say about time someone else does and yes even if that someone is a teacher.
As to the school system that suspended her, get over it. This woman did not call out these students in class and in person or send notes home to parents as the children’s teacher. This woman wrote on her personal blog and happens to be a teacher. Not one of the students or the parents of those students were required to read this woman’s blog or her opinions. The students who complained because they aren’t lazy and get good grades, what are you complaining about? Clearly she wasn’t speaking of you so why get offended. Why would any good student want to complain is the real question. If I were a good student trying to get an education and other students were wasting my time to get that education with ill behavior, I would be pissed at the students not the teacher.
Society needs to get over this concept that all children need are rainbows, lollipops and magical unicorns in their lives to be successful. Self-esteem is just one of many ingredients kids need to be successful. I don’t care how much self-esteem a person has; if they are lacking self-respect then they will fail. To esteem anything is to evaluate it positively and hold it in high regard. The “experts” spout out that if we teach our child to do that then they will always win and be successful. That is not true because we don’t always win no matter how great or in high regard we hold ourselves. Self-esteem is about evaluation.
To respect something, on the other hand, is to accept it. Children and quite a few adults I know need to learn the value of self-respect. Children need to learn that although they should hold themselves in high regard; they must also learn to accept that they aren’t perfect either and will lose sometimes.
Self-esteem and self-respect go hand in hand. Self-esteem helps a child believe they can accomplish anything and evaluate themselves in the best light possible. Self-respect teaches them to like themselves for who they are regardless of what they accomplish. Therefore even if they believed they could accomplish whatever they were trying to do but failed, the self respect to accept that they failed and are still a great person is crucial as well. For me it is simple. Children fail and have their parents make excuses and blame others and even lie for their children. Children learn that and feel they need to do they same to protect the self-esteem that has been instilled in them. If you teach your child self-respect, they won’t feel the need to make excuses for their failure or lose and still get to hold on to the feeling and high regard they feel as well.
Children say it all the time but we are so enamored by the “experts” for being experts that we don’t see what is right in front of us. A child who thinks they are a bad child because they failed is not lacking confidence or belief in themselves, the are lacking the ability to accept that sometimes no matter how good a child they are they will lose or fail and that is ok and doesn’t make them a bad child. Children who learn self-respect are less prone to guilt, regret, lies, secrets and stress. They can recognize their limitations without feeling it damages who they are as a good child and then it helps then to work at changing what they can and accepting what they can’t.