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Thursday December 14th 2017

Style for the Stay at Home Mom

Since becoming a stay at home mom three years ago, I have noticed that my concern over my appearance has gone way down.  I spend the majority of my day on a computer, cooking, cleaning, running the kids to school and taking care of them when they get home.  For all of that a pair of drawstring pants, a t-shirt and a ponytail do fine.  Seems I am not alone on this either.  Many stay at home moms, working from home or not, seem to be in the same boat.

Some of the moms I spoke with expressed concern about feeling embarrassed when company drops by unexpectedly and others about their overall feeling about themselves.  I have noticed there is a definite change in the way I feel by the way I dress so I decided to make some changes to see if they made a difference.  Instead of going with the typical daily outfit, the ponytail and no makeup at all, I put some effort into my appearance and I have to say it made a big difference.

For me personally, I was not concerned as much about people stopping by unexpectedly.  I learned long ago I can’t control when people do this and they will have to accept the state of my home and me as is when they do it.  If they find it unpleasant then maybe they will call next time and give me a little notice.  I have never had someone complain or least not to my knowledge.

There is no need to go all out but some simple things can make a big difference.  I am going to give you a few tips and tricks that will help you get out of the sweat pants and t-shirt mentality (yeah I know it is comfortable and workable) and improve your overall appearance.  You will notice a difference in your productivity and general self-esteem and self-confidence and a boost to those are always a plus.

Clothing Tips

The goals is to get away from the drawstring pants sets and into something is both comfortable and functional.  You don’t have to don a suit or fancy dress just something a little more.

Khaki pants, capri pants and comfortable fitting jeans are great choices.  They wash up easy, are comfortable yet stylish in case you need to leave the house, and you can add a variety of tops to go with them.

T-shirts are nice but try a button down shirt a few times.  A cotton blouse or pullover match up easily and look nice as well.  Proper fitting tops are essential.  You don’t want the oversized baggie t-shirt all the time and you don’t want the super tight form fitting tops either.  Some that fits well and is comfortable is important.

Invest in a light jacket, cardigan or blazer in a neutral color.  For last minute errands or a lunch date a nice jacket, cardigan or blazer over the top of your outfit gives it a nice touch and always you to feel good about the way you look without having to change your entire outfit.

Shoe Choices

Shoes are easy.  A nice neutral colored pair of flats works wonders and goes with just about anything.  Sandals are great during the warmer months.  Flats are best for trips to the grocery store or running errands and definitely when you have the kids in tow.

Tennis shoes and sneakers work but check them out and make sure they are clean and look good.  I use my tennis shoes when I am outside playing in the park or the grass but not usually anywhere else.  This way I don’t have to worry over grass stains or scuff marks since they are just for the park.  I stick to flats and sandals for everything else.

I own heels as well but I reserve those for going out for the evening, business meetings or pre-planned luncheons.  When there are kids involved I try to leave the heels at home.  If you are one of those women who are just an expert in heels then by all means do what works for you.

Hair Tips

I never have hours on end to stand around doing my hair.  With four kids I barely have time to put it in a ponytail most days.  I had really long hair and it spent the majority of the time in a ponytail so I finally broke down and cut it.  I didn’t go crazy but I went in and got a cut that worked better with my schedule.

Getting a haircut that looks great, works for you and is functional is a blessing.  You don’t need a fancy style to look good.  Talk with your stylist to find a cut that works for you.  Stress that you don’t have time to fuss it with for hours but don’t want it stuck in ponytail all day either.  Don’t let them try to convince you can curling, straighten, and style it quickly if you know you can’t.  The best styles are the wash and go ones.  Most styles can be wash and go if you find the correct styling product.  Talk with a stylist, you don’t have to buy salon products at salon prices, see what they recommend and then find an equivalent at your local drugstore.

Ponytails are not just a style issue they are also damaging to your hair.  Even the soft rubber bands that promise the world will still cause breakage.  Invest in some stylish hair clips, barrettes and headbands.  They are great, easy to use and look better than the plain old ponytail.

If you have curly hair, invest in a spray bottle that mist.  The lawn and garden section has tons of them in all kinds of shapes and sizes.  If you need to go out, give your hair a good misting then apply a little styling product to it.  It will revitalize the curl and help minimize the frizz.

Ever had one of those days where you ran out time and didn’t get to wash your hair or thought I will get to it later but then have to go out?  Oily hair not fun at all.  To fix this keep a bottle of baby powder handy at all times.  Apply a small amount to your hands and run it through your hair close to the roots.  Comb it through to the ends and it will absorb the oils and spread them throughout your hair.  This eliminates the oily look quickly and efficiently for that last minute outing.

Make-up Tips

I left these for last because I am not a big make-up wearer even for big occasions so definitely not at home.  I have found that a little mascara and lip gloss can go a long way in how you feel and look.  If you need to make a good impression at the last minute these two items can give you a look that you care about your appearance without tons of work.

I have both liquid and powder foundation.  When you have the time liquid foundation is great.  When you don’t you can end up with unevenness, streaks and lines of foundation on your face.  In a pinch and in a hurry, powder foundation is your best friend.  It doesn’t give you that full make-up feel and it goes on easily and evenly.  Powder foundation really is mistake proof.

If you want a little color a good powder bronzer or blush are wonderful.  The liquid and gels types can lead to the same problem as foundation with unevenness, streaks and lines if you are in a hurry.  Save those for when you have time on your hands.

Last but not least eyeliner and eyeshadow.  I only wear these on big occasions as they take the most time, for me at least.  They do add a nice touch and if you have the time by all means put them on if you want them.

Remember that make-up should be for you and for what makes you feel you look good.  If you are not comfortable with make-up overall or just don’t want it, then don’t feel obligated to wear it.  For me mascara and lip gloss are my staples and everything else is icing if I have time or feel like it.

Even though we are stay at home moms, whether working or not, we are still women.  We need to sometimes make the effort to get out of the sweatpants and t-shirt mentality and dress like we did before we had kids.  I will always have days when I don’t even get up enough effort to get out of my PJs but since making the effort to dress a little better and take care of my appearance, it has made me feel better as well.  I no longer have to change clothes at the last minute because an unexpected errand or lunch date has come up.  I no longer have to worry that I look like I just rolled out of bed if company happens to stop by unannounced.  It does give you a little boost to your overall productivity and self-esteem so step out of the old and try something new a few days a week and see the difference for yourself.

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