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Saturday November 25th 2017

Mom Puts Son To Work On Street Corner

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I am not a fan of the news in general but last night a story caught my ear.  A mother in Tampa, Rhonda Holder, was fed up with her son’s failing grades and FCAT scores so she did something about it.  What she did was put her son on the street corner for 8 hours with a sign.  The sign reads:  “I did four questions on my FCAT and said I wasn’t going to do it.  GPA 1.2222222.  Honk if I need education.”  After the news story broke, some have been calling her a bad mother and equating her actions to child abuse.  As a parent, I say “way to go Rhonda!”.

Rhonda’s son, 15 year old James, is not taking his education seriously.  Rhonda Holder said she has tried other approaches, like taking his cell phone away from him, but non of that has worked.  Her whole premise is that if he doesn’t get an education, that is the only job he will get so he better get started early.  She is absolutely right; without an education he doesn’t stand a chance in the job market.  Her hopes is that embarrassment and what it feels like to stand on that street corner for 8 hours a day will help him realize he needs an education.  This isn’t going to be a one time thing for James either.  Rhonda intends him to work a different corner over the next couple of weeks until he straightens out his act.

There are some who see what Rhonda is doing as a bad thing or her being a bad mother.  That is a bunch crap.  She is nearby so he isn’t standing out there alone, it is being done during daylight hours, the child is 15 years old and most importantly he isn’t being harmed.  There are the “experts” and people who feel that a child’s self-esteem is the most important thing in the world above all else; so embarrassing him publicly is wrong.  Yes, self-esteem is important but so is an education.  James will survive the embarrassment but he won’t survive if he doesn’t get an education.

I have addressed this issue about self-esteem in the past.  I disagree with the “experts”.  Self-esteem is important but it is not the only thing.  Great self-esteem alone is not the ticket to a great future.  Children need a mix of different knowledge, skills and abilities.  Children need to learn to cope with disappointment, embarrassment, hurt, sadness and the plethora of not so positive emotions that are out there and they will be confronted with.  Shielding children from the harsh realities of the real world and then sending them out into that real world unprepared is abuse.  I don’t suggest creating situations but I certainly disagree with shielding children from them entirely.  This is also a 15 year old child.  By 15 he should have started taking some responsibility for his life.  At 16 this same child can get a driver’s license.  At 18 he can vote.  Enough with the self-esteem, what he needs is a little self-respect and an education.  Giving him a taste of where his life is heading.

I say way to go Rhonda.  As a parent we have to take charge of our children’s education.  We as parents have to make sure they get the education they need.  The school system is not going to make that child do his work.  If the traditional methods aren’t working then, as a parent, it is time to think outside of those traditional methods and find something that will work.  I applaud her strength and determination to help her child get the education he needs.

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4 Responses to “Mom Puts Son To Work On Street Corner”

  1. justanotherday says:
    What everyone is missing is that his grades have been this way for some time and the school has failed this child. Clearly the parents care and did everything they could so there is no excuse for the school to do everything it could. There is more to this story and we will never know because it will expose the school for failing its students. Or just the minority ones. This is why our educational system is a joke. Meanwhile they want to pump more money into the schools, but that money never really reaches the kids. They will build a new gymnasium so some politician’s contractor friend can get some government dollars. Or big bucks on some new computers, but a dial up speed connection along with anything that might be useful blocked. What happened to “No child left behind”? I guess it only applied to behind. Not way behind. School can be boring. It is up to the school and the teachers to keep it interesting. I am not a counselor, but even I have enough sense to have ask the kid, a long time ago, what would he like to do? Everything in life now requires some education to do. Maybe he has a learning disability? Children are not stupid. Just misinformed and abandoned. This is so sad, because it will be dismissed and the Board of Education will continue to sell out our children and the future of our children. We still have a long way to go in this country. Like it or not, we all pay when we fail any child. He could have and still could be the next researcher to cure cancer or the greatest serial killer of all time. The comments mentioned in the main article from so called professionals suggest that we as a society have already decided what we want from him. …and we will likely get it. This is where it starts. We only have ourselves to blame.
    • mom says:
      I will agree with you that the school system has failed him and a good deal of others students as well. The “no child left behind” though was window dressing. Teachers could and did advocate for making the learning more interesting but in order to do that children did get left behind. Now we have State mandated testing to ensure no child is left behind and that is all the schools do now, prepare kids to take the test. In between, State testing is benchmark testing to make sure kids are on par with where they should be. So now we have kids who are great at taking test and no kid is getting left behind but what are they learning?

      We are essentially saving the few at the expense of the many with the “no child left behind” way of thinking as it is. Don’t get me wrong I want every child to be able to get an education but we need to focus more on why these few aren’t keeping up and aren’t learning and address that problem. Turning the schools into classes that teach children the bare minimum to ensure everyone passes the test is not helping. Kids who are smart get bored. Kids who are even average get bored now too making it worse. When these kids know everything they are being taught because it is just the basics they don’t feel they have anything to gain by going to school.

      We need to challenge children in school. We need to get them thinking. We need to make it a little difficult. Until the States and Federal folks realize that simply being able to pass a test does not mean a child is learning. The school system needs to allow teachers to challenge their students and have resources to help the students who fall behind. If we stop spending so much money on testing these kids and spent more money on making learning challenging and interesting and have programs for kids who fall behind we will have a much better school system.

      Sadly, I don’t see that day coming anytime soon so parents are forced to come up with creative ways to get their kids to go to school and sit through the boredom and take the test so they can pass and hopefully get into college where they will actually learn something.

  2. Tara says:
    A major part of good parenting is helping your child understand that there are consequences to their actions as well as their lack of action. This woman is right on point. The world isn’t going to be worried about his self esteem 3 years from now when he’s 18. The experts should be thanking her for demanding more of her son now, rather than allowing him to become another unskilled, uneducated, burden later. Sometimes the hardest lessons are the best lessons for our children. I applaud Rhonda.
  3. Alicia says:
    I can feel the frustration Rhonda must have felt at that time because I had a similar experience. Sometimes when your fed up you tend to go to the extreme when disciplining. I know she must have tried everything: talking to him, removing his privileges, punishing and etc. But what was wrong with it was the humiliation, it’s not the solution to her problem thus will only worsen the situation because i will just lower his self confidence and self esteem. Every parent should be guided on how to handle their kids when they sense that they are failing school. I read a good article about how parents can be proactive. With good support and proper guidance you and your child will be able to face any challenges in the future.

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