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Thursday December 14th 2017

Parents in the News – Recently

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I have been following the news on three parents recently.  It will come as no surprise who the three parents are:

  1. A mom from St. Clair Shores, Michigan who drove her teenage son to a 7-11 convenience store to beat up a younger kid.  She not only drove him there, but once there she cheered him on and encouraged the beating.  The other child’s parents were not present.  This mom and her son are facing criminal charges.
  2. April Necomb from Manatee County, Florida (sigh) who showed up at her teenage daughter’s pre-planned fight and cheered and encouraged the fight.  The mother of the other girl arrived at the end of the fight and actually confronted April Newcomb over letting the fight go on.  April Newcomb is in jail awaiting bond and facing criminal charges.  The girls involved in the fight are not facing any charges at this time.
  3. James Willie Jones from Sanford, Florida is the father who got on his daughter’s school bus and threatened the kids who had been bullying his daughter.  He verbally threatened the children with bodily harm if they didn’t leave his daughter alone.  He is facing charges for his actions and is currently on out on bond.

James Willie Jones

I want to start with James Jones first because I found his actions to be somewhat acceptable.  I have had to deal with bullying in school first hand through my own son, who was bullied and the school did nothing.   Bullying in School and Bullying in the Schools (yes I know how original with the second title) tell the tale.   This father reported the bullying to the county and nothing was done.  Some of the news reports stated the boys teased her but this “teasing” was so much that the girl was stressed out, hospitalized and on suicide watch.  That is not teasing by any definition.

Did he go overboard by addressing the kids directly and threating them with bodily harm and cursing at them, maybe a little but who cares.  These kids were harassing and bullying his daughter to an extreme.  If my son came home complaining of being threatened by a kids father for bullying a kid, my first question would be “Why were you bullying other kids?” and my next comment would be “You better think twice before you bully another kid.”.  This would be followed up with some good old fashioned discipline something kids of today seem to be lacking.

Instead of addressing the bullying the father is arrested and the kids he yelled at and threatened are considered the victims.  Those poor kids were scared by this man and shame on him for scaring little kids so the theory seems to go.  What about these kids scaring his daughter and interfering with her right to go to school and get an education safely?

How do we miss the big picture here?  These kids were harassing another kid in school and on the bus and the school was doing nothing about it.  As a parent, I can protect my kids at home but when I put them on the bus for school then it becomes the school’s responsibility.  Putting up no bullying zone signs is meaningless if the school administrators and bus drivers don’t actually make it a no bullying zone.  I do not buy that no one saw or knew that this child was being bullied as the father had already reported it to the county.  The school should have contacted the parents of the children being accussed of doing the bullying.  Maybe then the parents could have sat down and addressed the issue like adults instead of one parent feeling there was no other way but to enter a school bus and threaten the kids.  I can tell you from experience that the school doesn’t always report these allegations made against children to the parents.

Bullying is a serious problem and kids are dying from it, so when do we start addressing it?  How many more kids have to die before it is really taken seriously?  I would prefer to see more parents taking a stand against bullying even if it means yelling and threatening the kids doing the bullying.  Unfortunately, when parents are arrested for standing up for their children less and less parents will want to take that stand.  I could be wrong but I think instilling a little fear in the hearts of bullies is a good thing.

There is a Facebook Group in support of James Willie Jones if anyone is interested in showing their support for this father protecting his daughter.

The Two Moms

I cannot for the life of me fathom why these two parents did what they did.  April Newcomb claims the fight was going to happen anyways so she wanted to make sure her daughter was safe.  The daughter had a previous skull fracture and April Newcomb was worried her daughter could be hit in the back of the head.  The other mother has no excuse whatsoever actually neither does April Newcomb.

Common sense says encouraging your child to beat up another child is bad parenting.  Self-defense teachers will be the first ones to come out against violence.  They teach a person how to protect and defend themself if attacked.  They don’t teach kids or adults how to fight so they can go out and fight.  Self-defense I have no issue with but neither case was even remotely self-defense.  The fights were not spur of the moment, both of them were thought out and planned.  At any point both of these mothers could have stopped the fights from occurring.

The St. Claire Shores, Michigan mother drove her son to beat up another child over a girl.  What was wrong with just saying no to that child?  What was wrong with explaining the ramifications of violence and the consequences of premeditation to the child instead of driving him to the fight?

I have yet to see the reasoning for the two girls fighting.  It doesn’t matter why though or what reason a child has for wanting to beat up another child, parents should know better.  Parents should be the voice of reason not the facilitators.  April Newcomb’s reasoning of just wanting to make sure her child was safe and it was going to happen anyways is ludicrous.  If you want to keep your child safe don’t encourage them to get into fist fights and resolve problems with violence.  Certainly don’t stand there, watch it happen and cheer it on.

Both of these women should be in jail along with their children.  The St. Claire Shores kid has already been charged and good for that prosecutor.  The two girls, so far, are not being charged and it looks as if no charges are coming.  These two girls were assaulting each other and both should be charged.  A little time in junevile hall would do these girls some good.  I can hear the experts now saying that the kids need therapy not jail but therapy only works for kids and adults who want help.  Forced therapy rarely works if the person doesn’t want to change or feels they have done nothing wrong to warrant change.  These kids need to first taste the consequences of their actions and come to the conclusion on their own they were wrong, then therapy can help.

Kids today have no fear of consequences.  They seem to not even understand there are consequences for their actions.  These kids become adults who have no fear of consequences and then fail to teach their children about consequences.  More and more kids are doing whatever they want and just don’t care because parents are backing up and supporting bad behavior.  Parents are shielding their kids from punishment for wrong doing.  Parents are taking this attitude of “it is going to happen anyways so just make sure the kids are safe” in regards to drugs, alcohol, sex, and violence.  It is true that it probably will happen anyways in some cases but maybe if we stop condoning it and protecting our kids from the consequences when they get caught, they might think twice about doing it in the first place.
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