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One empowered woman's struggle against the world
Saturday September 22nd 2018

Glass House

mom says

I heard a saying recently on TV, I don’t recall the program, but it stuck in my head.  There were two characters discussing the mistakes one had made and the person who made the mistakes got tired of being judged and responded, “so how is your glass house coming along”.  I loved it.

We live in a society where people love to judge other people but rarely judge themselves as open and publicly as they do others.  I was proud of the fact that I wasn’t one of those people or so I thought I wasn’t one of those people but I am.  We do judge people and we all do it, it is just a matter of degree.

I could reconcile my judgment of others based on several criteria and those criteria allowed me to sit back and say to myself that I didn’t really judge them because:

a) they were strangers (never judge people to their face)
b) they were celebrities (so they should expect it)
c) they were stupid people doing stupid things (everyone else does it so its ok)
d) they were politicians (who doesn’t judge them)
e) they were family/friends (what they do reflects on me to some extent)
f) they were providing customer service (there performance is a reflection of their abilities)
g) they were salesman (have to in order to gauge their honesty in the product they are selling)

The list can go on I assure you but it came down to who didn’t I have a *reason* to judge.  I judge people, I do, I admit it.  Am I a bad person, well no.  I don’t sit and think I am better than people therefore the yardstick by which I internally judge people is the standard of the world.  I think that is where people go wrong.  People will always judge other people because it is what we do.  We have our own moral and ethical standards and when we see people going outside of them we immediately judge.  Sometimes we judge to see if our standards are the norm or if we are really the one outside of the norm.  Sometimes it is an automatic judgment and we didn’t even mean to do it, the thought was just in our head and sometimes out of our mouth before it is too late.  Sometimes we do it because there is safety in numbers and everyone else is doing it.

So what does all of that have to do with today’s blog entry?  I stopped posting blog entries (I have still been writing them just not making them public).  I did this because it seemed no matter what I said or how I said it people were constantly judging everything I said and did.  For example, I wrote an article on fast food and suggested we stop feeding our kids so much fast food and it would help reduce childhood obesity.  I then wrote a blog entry about getting my kids fast food some time later.  I got emails saying how dare I tell people not to feed their kids fast food and then go out and feed my kids fast food.

I also found that I would refrain from saying things that could help others because I didn’t want to be judged.  I didn’t want to post that I let my kids eat chocolate chip cookies for breakfast because I had run out of cereal and forgot to go to the store.  I know I am not the only parent in the world to do this but parents especially don’t really discuss their mistakes for fear of being judged a *bad* parent.  Maybe if we did discuss it more and parents saw that they aren’t alone in the mistakes they make we could collectively alleviate some of that parental guilt we carry around.

Hmmm I had to think about what to do.  I am not a perfect mom, daughter, sister, friend, girlfriend or woman in general.  I can offer fantastic advice but I don’t always follow the advice I give.  In a perfect world we would all know how to be the best at everything and not even need advice but we don’t live in a perfect world.  I will inevitably give advice and sometimes fail to follow the good advice I give.  I will at times give great advice in the moment and then later offer conflicting advice because situations, times and people involved have changed.  I will screw up and do stupid stuff along with everyone else on the planet even though I know the right thing to do.

Last night I had dinner with a friend.  She told me that I give great advice but it is hard to always follow it.  I assured her that even I don’t always follow the advice I give because it is hard to always do every thing right.  I make mistakes just like everyone else.  There is a vast difference between knowing what the right thing to do is and doing it.  A good deal of the things I have learned and advice I give comes from the mistakes I made and have repeated even after learning from the mistakes.

That all being said I am going to start posting all the blog entries that I have held privately trying to resolve this dilemma.  I am not perfect and I am never going to be perfect.  I will continue to offer the best advice I can based on real life experience but I will not always follow that advice to the letter myself.  I am not going to edit out my entries to try and make it seem like I am perfect and therefore beyond reproach and above being judged because I am not.  I will be judged and I will continue to judge others because that is just what we do.

So judge away I say…..but after you are done judging me or anyone for that matter and before you start typing out that irate email or feeling the need to express your judgment….answer this first:

So how is your glass house coming along 😉

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3 Responses to “Glass House”

  1. meharga says:
    I’m impressed!!! Don’t listen to what others say and keep on posting.
  2. Mr. Watson says:
    Haha this is so true. We all judge other people we can’t seem to help it but it is the way you go about it that makes all the difference in the world.
  3. janice45 says:
    Omg as I was reading thru the list of your rationales making it ok to judge someone I was laughing my butt off. I rationalize it like that too. We are terrible aren’t we. I don’t do it to be mean or anything but I can’t always control the thoughts that pop into my head. I do try to keep my mouth shut though and most of the time I manage. I know you are being serious in a non serious way and you did a great job….I will definitely consider how my glass house is coming along in the future.

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