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Thursday April 9th 2020

Dressing Sexy in the Bedroom – For Beginners

Let me first say that I am a huge fan of lingerie and it has nothing to do with sex, ok well maybe some things but sex is the minor consideration here.  My love of lingerie comes from how it makes me feel rather than what it does for my partner.  I do enjoy the effects it has on him but bottom line I wear it to make myself feel good and when that happens he benefits as well.

My love for lingerie is long standing and everything from my every day bra and panties to what I wear for sex is carefully considered.  A lot of women will spend a great deal of money on a sexy pair of shoes but won’t spend or pay the same attention to a sexy bra/panty set.  You are doing yourself a disservice.  Sexy shoes are nice but you are limited to when you can wear them.  A sexy bra/panty set can be worn anytime and everywhere giving you that feel good self-esteem boost all day long in the office or in the bedroom.

I am fascinated by people in general and watching women in a lingerie shop is an experience.  For a good deal of women they go straight for the outfits with the garter belts, fancy bustiers and, if you don’t know lingerie well, the complicated outfits.  I watch as they look through the racks and at the mannequins trying to figure out if it will look good on them.  They rarely speak to the salespeople and end up buying what they think their partners will like.  All mistakes if your goal is to dress sexy and feel sexy.

First don’t make it about your partner.  Men can find you sexy in a t-shirt so don’t worry about pleasing them.  If you are just starting out and want to try out good lingerie then invest the time and money to get what makes you feel good.  Lingerie no matter how sexy on the store mannequin will look awkward on you if you aren’t comfortable with it or you are just wearing it to please your partner.

A Sexy Nightie is a Great Place to Start

When the topic of lingerie comes up, I always tell women to start out simple.  By that I mean, start out with a sexy nightie.  You can’t go wrong with a simple sexy nightie.  They not only look good and feel good but they are functional to sleep in as well.  There is no complicated set up or 20 minute session needed to put it on, you just slip it on and well it slips off just as easy.

The variety of nighties available can suit anyone’s taste.  They have lace ones, silk ones, cotton ones and even a combination of lace and silk.  They are cut to accentuate your curves even if you think you have none.  A sexy nightie will make you feel sexy as well.  More advanced lingerie takes time to get used to whereas nighties feel good right off the shelf.

A good silk nightie will catch your partners attention but doesn’t leave you feeling exposed if lingerie is new to you.  The are generally short but you can get longer varieties to suit your comfort level.  The are slit in all the right places.  Silk nighties flow when you move and hug your body but aren’t tightly fitted to your form allowing you to be comfortable and sexy at the same time.

A good salesperson in a lingerie story can help you find the right one for you.  I didn’t understand why women wouldn’t ask for help in lingerie stores for a long time.  A female friend of mine who I dragged into the local lingerie shop at the mall freaked out on me when I held up a nightie and asked the salesperson (who was a guy) what he thought.  She yanked me aside and said, “you can’t tell that guy I am having sexy.”  I wasn’t announcing she was going to have sex with anyone but she felt and I have found that other women have the same feeling; that by buying lingerie they are somehow announcing to the world that they are sexually active and goodness knows we can’t have that because women don’t have sex.

I will tell you here and now, the salespeople don’t care if you are having sex or not, they just want to do their job sell you some lingerie and collect their paycheck.  As for the other store patrons, they don’t care either because they are in there shopping for lingerie as well.  Don’t be afraid to ask the salesperson for advice, that is their job, and they usually get it right.  You will come to learn what suits you and what doesn’t if you continue on to more advanced forms of lingerie and you won’t need their help but in the beginning let them do their job and help you.

In the Bedroom

There is probably nothing sexier in the bedroom than a women with self-confidence.  Think about how you feel with those sexy shoes you are willing to spend a fortune on.  Think about how you feel with a nice silk dress.  You feel better about yourself and you see yourself differently.  It isn’t shallow or superficial to get a self-esteem boost from your clothes.  A silk nightie can give you that boost and I mean it when I say there is nothing sexier than a women with self-confidence, ask any man.

For me and a good deal of women, lingerie gives us a feeling of sexy and empowered at the same time.  It is a great combination.  The effect of the seeing your partner look at you and wanting you and feeling his desire is nothing short of awesome.  I have a closet full of lingerie every shape and size and type you can imagine but the two that my partner respond the best to are a long flowing robe that ties and is sheer enough to see through but still lets you feel covered and a short simple gray nightie with black flowers and spaghetti straps.

If I need his attention all it takes is putting on one of those.  His obvious desire just adds to the boost I am already getting just by wearing one of the nighties.  Nighties are simple, easy, feel great and look great on just about everyone.  Try one out and see how it makes you feel and how your partner responds, if you still don’t like it then go back to your normal pajama routine.  It never hurts to try.

Once you get comfortable with nighties you can take it up a notch and try more advanced lingerie.  The key is to start out simple and feel good about what you are wearing.  Always remember that lingerie is about you and making you feel good.  Your partner’s feelings about lingerie should just be the icing on the cake to the way it makes you feel.

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One Response to “Dressing Sexy in the Bedroom – For Beginners”

  1. Caroyln@Lingerie says:
    Dude, this kicks ass – plain and simple. Clearly you have made many people very happy. 🙂 And Thx to you for taking the time!!

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