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Thursday December 14th 2017

Bring Back Community Parenting

mom says

I have been thinking a lot about the mother in the store the other day and her response when people tried to speak to her about it.  She isn’t alone.  There are a good majority of parents, if you commented on how maybe their child was just being bad and needed to be dealt with that would tear your head off.  This mind your own business because it isn’t your kid mentality has spread far and wide.

I remember growing up that you didn’t mess around in public because you never knew who’s mom was nearby.  You knew that if someone else’s mom saw you, she would report back to your mom and you were in for trouble.  Not only that these other moms would have no issue reading you the riot act first right then and still telling your mom.  Kids no longer worry about this.  Go to the mall on a Saturday and you will see first hand they don’t worry about this at all.  Now parents see it, shake their heads and move on.  Community parenting is a good way to look at it.  If the parents weren’t around there were always other parents around or adults that would step up.

Now we don’t have that and not because kids won’t listen to other parents, although that is becoming the way.  But we don’t have this because we don’t want to get our heads bitten off when we report back to a parent that their kid wasn’t being an angel out in public away from them.

Well I am here to tell you that your kid is not an angel when they are away from you.  These are not bad kids they are just kids without any parental supervision.  I see kids smoking, drinking, cursing and having sex at the park behind my house all the time.  They are just there in public view on the park bench. Kids aren’t afraid of being found out because they have learned that parents won’t bother telling because for some reason parents of today refuse to believe their kid would do such.

Kids of today have learned that if they are perfect angels at home then their parents will never believe that they would be up to no good away from home.  Well they are up to no good and you should take off the rose colored glasses and start listening when other parents try to tell you so.

Kids are kids and they will do stupid stuff.  Not bad kids just kids.  They are going to drink, smoke, curse, have sex and cause general trouble because they are kids and they want to experience things.  I am not saying its right but it exist and we can’t pretend it doesn’t exist because we don’t want to or can’t handle it.  Remember what you and your friends did as kids?

The next time a parent says to you, “I saw little Johnny smoking at the bus stop, where you aware?”  Instead of biting their head off and insisting that your child would never do such, investigate.  Drive by the bus stop one morning unbeknown to little Johnny and see what he is really doing when he is away from you.  I think you will find that the other parent was right.  Parents aren’t going to make up bad things about your child, they have no reason to do that.  If it is reported to you, check it out because more likely than not bad things are going on when your child is not with you.

Let me tell you what will happen the first time I see little Sara from the park (the one who is drinking, smoking, cursing and fooling around) in the grocery store with mom or dad.  I will introduce myself and say something like, “Oh you are little Sara’s parent. I see little Sara at the park all the time after midnight, drinking, smoking, cursing and fooling around.  Lucky you don’t live right behind the park because sometimes they get really loud too and I am amazed my neighbor hasn’t called the police yet.”  I will probably get yelled at and told I am mistaken that it couldn’t be their precocious Sara but maybe just maybe it will make them wonder.  I know it will make little Sara think twice the next time she is at the park because she knows what she has been doing even if mom and dad are clueless.

We need to stop being a “mind your business” set of parents and get back to community parenting.  We need to stop believing our children can do no wrong when other parents are telling us they have seen them doing wrong.  We need to start investigating and checking out claims that are children are out in public acting, oh so contrary, to how they behave at home.  Maybe if we did that, the next time you walk through the mall kids would scatter and stop the cursing and hide the cigarettes because they actually have a little fear back in the minds that hey that lady could be the lady who is going to tell my mom what I am doing.  Kids need a little fear sometimes to make them think about what it is they are doing.  They are going to do it but maybe just maybe that little bit of fear will help them keep the stupid things they do to a minimum instead of having no fear at all and free reign to do as many stupid things as their little imaginations will allow them to.

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