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Tuesday October 17th 2017

Chores

Most of us have some memory of doing chores as a kid. I can’t think of one of my childhood friends who actually enjoyed doing chores but we certainly enjoyed spending the allowance they brought in. I hated chores but luckily or unluckily for me my parents weren’t hard core about them so my brother and I could find ways around them. As a parent, I now recognize the importance of chores that I was blind to as a child.

What are chores?

Chores are any job that needs to get done. There is no specific list of chores although you will find many list of chores all around the internet and in books. Chores are just jobs that need to get done around the house to help the household run smoothly. Different families will have different chores. Different parents will have different chores. It comes down to what you need for your family.

Why chores?

Chores are not just for keeping the house tidy and running smoothly. Chores are a great way of teaching kids some valuable lessons that will help them through their school years and into adulthood. Below is a list of some of the great things chores teach children:

Chores help children develop skills–Young children especially can benefit from the skills required to do chores. Hand/eye co-ordination, fine motor skills, and problem solving to name a few. Older children can learn negotiation skills and time management.

Children learn to follow instructions – Chores are great at teaching children how to follow instructions. As they get older each new chore comes with new instructions. Learning how to follow verbal, written and visual methods is valuable once a child starts school. If they are already in school strengthening these skills is crucial.

Chores teach children responsibility – Kids are never too young to learn responsibility and chores are a great way to teach it. Children as young as 2-3 can start doing chores.

Chores teach life skills that carry into adulthood – The chores your children learn they will carry with them into adulthood. Learning how to cook, wash and put away clothes, tidy up and how to keep things organized are great skills for every adult male or female to have.

Are my kids too young for chores?

Children can start doing chores at around 2-3 years of age. They will need assistance and you can’t expect perfection but they are very capable of starting to do chores. Look at Chores for Kids of All Ages for a list of age appropriate chores.

Reward and consequence

When you hear chores you most likely think allowance. What has traditionally worked with chores is a reward system. I don’t have the same traditional view and you have to find what works for you. A reward system for the younger kids such as stickers or small treats is helpful. Allowance is the traditional reward. I like tying allowance to chores but not in the manner of do your chores and get an allowance system. For a look at how allowance can be done check out this great article on allowance.

Consequences are a must. Children need to learn to be responsible for themselves and to be a part of and contribute to the family unit. If you have nothing but a reward system, kids will forgo the reward at times. Children need to learn that not only do you not get the “reward” but there are consequences for not doing the chore. Chores shouldn’t be a choice but a requirement. That doesn’t mean you have to have severe consequences that will make kids hate chores but you need something. Consequences are your most powerful tool is a good look at how to use consequences effectively.

Once you have all of the above you put it all together into a system that works for your family. Following are some articles that will help you deal with each part of the system to help you find the one that works for you. Chores can be an important and valuable part of your children’s life. Forget how much you hated chores and start a system that will benefit your children forever.

As always – good luck!

Reader Feedback

9 Responses to “Chores”

  1. Martelli@gmail.com says:
    Good tips thanks for the share. I will keep them in mind.
  2. Ailene Fouhy says:
    I didn’t make my kids do chores until they got older – something I now think was a mistake. I felt guilty making them do what I believed was my job. I have since learned how valuable doing chores is for kids. Great post keep up the good work.
  3. Erma King says:
    When I was a kid I never got the point of chores. When I went to college I finally got it. You could see the difference between kids who did chores growing up and kids who didn’t. The day I told my mom she laughed at me and reminded me how often I used to tell her she only had me and my brothers so she could have free maid service 🙂 Great write up.
  4. Jon Lindo says:
    Hey nicely written. I found your take on allowance interesting. My wife and I didn’t agree with paying for chores as we felt it was part of being a family and helping out. When I showed her the allowance article we rethought our position. We still don’t pay for chores being done but we now provide an allowance and chores are tied into the system. We saw the importance of chores but overlooked money management and kids need that too.
  5. Cedrick Paluzzi says:
    I am going to disagree with you all. Making kids do chores is just a nice way to have slaves and get away with it. You are parents and part of your job is taking care of your home and your kids not having your kids take care of themselves and your home so you can sit on your ass. Stop forcing your kids into slavery and start being parents.
  6. Jacquelynn Appleton says:

    @Cedrick you are nuts. Chores are a part of life not slavery. Most kids get paid handsomely for doing chores and last I checked that isn’t slavery.

    Great article and great site keep up the good work. Perfect reasons why kids should be expected to do chores. It won’t kill them and they learn a few good lessons that help them later on.

  7. Daniel says:
    All kids should do chores and they should start young. Chores teach kids the skills they will need to care for themselves later in life and that every one has to do their part. Don’t know when parents stopped insisting chores be done but look at the kids of today and you can see they have no respect for anything because everything is handed to them even simple stuff like having their bed made every day.
  8. 14-year-old says:
    I agree with having a chore system in your household, but to a certain extent. I believe that it is the parents job to take care of the house, and having your children do all of the cleaning and organizing is not fair. I think it fair for the parents to help out around the house just as much as the children do. For the parents to clean up after themselves and obey their own rules that they set for the children to follow(Ex: No eating in the living room). When the parents help out around the house also, the children don’t feel like slaves and have less attitude when asked to do a chore. In the end it all runs smoothly. This is how my household operates, and it runs pretty damn smoothly if you ask me.
  9. 13 yr old says:
    chores should be tied to money. first of all, if the children do chores for money, they will feel like they earned it through hard work(making money feel more valuable), and also you can still teach money saving skills even thought children work for money. parents should work alongside children to earn money because it will give them a sense of teamwork in keeping the house clean. if a free allowance was given, children could just waste it, and just say: “meh i wasted. so what? i get more money next week”. however, if money is tied to chores, and a child wastes it, child would say: “shit i wasted money, i have to work more for it, so ill be careful next time”.

    chores also help children earn the basic skills required to run a household, and instills today’s system of working for money(living/household keeping).

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