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Wednesday May 22nd 2019

Bullying in the Schools – Nothing Being Done

mom says
I am quite outraged and extremely disappointed at my kid’s school. Weeks ago my son reported he was being bullied all year long by other students. He wrote a statement, provided names and there were teachers who witnessed the bullying. After he reported it and I asked for an investigation and something to be done about it, his teacher asked for my son to be removed from her class. I was assured by the principal that the matter would be looked into and addressed.

School is now over and absolutely nothing was done or will be done. It was suggested if I was unhappy with the school I could always send my kids elsewhere. So that is the answer? The school doesn’t want to deal with it so they would rather have the child sent elsewhere. I shouldn’t be surprised as I have spoken with other parents about the bullying that goes on in the school and the response they have gotten and it has been similar to mine.

It was further implied the boys who were doing the bullying weren’t really doing anything wrong. A good majority of the bullying came from the fact that my son is overweight. The schools theory is that the kids were not saying anything that wasn’t true and that is what kids do. So calling him fat and giving him nicknames like Shamoo the whale, making fun of him because he is overweight, alienating him because he is overweight and encouraging other kids to do the same is all ok because my son is actually overweight? I was floored at the implication.

The principal seemed to completely ignore the parts of my son’s statement where he was being physically hit and having things thrown at him and shoved into walls by these boys.

Here in Florida, there were so many deaths, yes deaths, from bullying that Florida adopted a law to help get it under control. A majority of the bullying occurs in the classrooms, hallways and school yards at the schools so much so that the law will pull school funding if the schools don’t comply with the Anti-bullying law. It is recognized that this is a growing problem yet schools, at least mine, still won’t deal with it.

I have been reading story after story about kids being bullied so badly they take their own lives. Being bullied and beaten to near death, being bullied and set on fire by other classmates, and being tormented on a daily basis. In almost every case teachers and school officials were made aware and did little to nothing. Some of these officials don’t believe bullying is even happening. Other officials call it teasing and a part of growing up.

Some, far too many in my opinion, school officials and teachers fought against the Anti-bullying law and all the requirements that went along with it. Some teachers felt it wasn’t their job to deal with bullying but the parents job. When my child is in your care for 7 hours of the day, it is your job. In my son’s case teachers witnessed it but thought his homeroom teacher was dealing with it. His homeroom teacher claims she never once saw him being bullied. She also said boys will be boys which basically means she did see it, she just wrote it off as boys will be boys instead of dealing with it.

Bullying is a problem in schools. Bullying has always been around but the extreme to which is has risen is unacceptable. For some schools to not want to take any responsibility is completely unacceptable and I hope the Anti-Bullying law does it’s job and starts pulling funding from these schools until they start accepting responsibility.

Now I am not solely placing all the responsibility or blame for that matter on the schools. The Internet, MySpace, Facebook, Bebo, YouTube and all these other social sites give these bullies a venue to take it out of the schools and make life miserable for the kids being bullied even at home. Back in my day, once you left school you were safe from any bullying until you went back the next day. That isn’t the case anymore.

In Lakeland,Fl which is not far from me, a group of girls lured a girl to a home for the express purpose of beating her up, filming it and posting it on MySpace and YouTube. Another girl was tormented and the girls involved along with a parent created a fake Myspace account to torment the girl. They told her to kill herself and no one wanted her around and eventually the girl killed herself. There are countless stories just like those two from across the country. This is not just teasing or a few bad kids, this is becoming an epidemic that needs to be dealt with now.

Parents are also responsible. We need to talk to our children and when they tell us they are being bullied we need to be in that school office with them as they report what is going on. We need to follow up and make sure the school is a safe environment for them to be in. We need to expect and demand that our children be protected while in the care of the school for 7 hours a day. Our children have that right. We also need to monitor their Internet and cellphone activity. We need to pay attention.

My son will return to school next year and be in the same classes as these boys that were bullying him. These boys know now that it was reported and nothing was done. I have no doubt it will start again next year because the principal refuses to do anything about it.

I will not send my child to another school when this school meets his academic needs, is close to home and would be a hardship on him and our family. The school itself is a good school, has some great teachers and support staff, the problem is administration. Regardless, what I will do next year is go to court and get a restraining order for my son from these boys. The school will have to deal with it then whether they like it or not. The school wants to put the responsibility solely with me, as the parent, then fine I will do something about it. The next step will be to report the school for failing to comply with the law and protect my son and countless others from bullying in the school.

An unfortunate part, in my case, is that the school never notified the parents of the other boys who were accused of doing the bullying. The school looked into and felt the other parents didn’t need to know a statement was made against their children. I know one of the parents and we have spoken at length and they spoke to their son about it but they were never told by the school. When the mother asked about it with the school she was told it was nothing and not to worry. Their son admitted to the bullying but he said he did it because he was afraid if he didn’t join in they would start bullying him. What a sad situation when kids join in because even they know they won’t get any protection from bullying.
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3 Responses to “Bullying in the Schools – Nothing Being Done”

  1. Cari Lansang says:
    This is exactly why you need a board certified family law attorney! thanks for the information. I will definitely revisit this blog again.
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  3. Heather says:
    I would like to use some of you points in a letter that I am writing to my Daughter’s school board. My daughter is 8 yrs old. She is in 3rd grade and is constantly being bullied but her teachers tell her to ignore the other children. That is all they do about it here. I live in IL. and I have now joined the safety comity on the PTA. And I am also write a column for the school paper about bullying and I hope this gets across to many parents whom read it. would you mind if I used some of your letter?

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