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One empowered woman's struggle against the world
Wednesday June 26th 2019

Bullying in school

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Bullying in schools is an age old situation. Bullies have always been around and will always be around it seems. There has been an alarming trend of girls getting in on the bullying as well. We have all been there and we have all seen some form of bullying going on whether it be on the playground, in the classroom, or on the sports field. Schools across the country have started to adopt a no bullying policy but are the schools really doing anything more than posting new signs that say zero tolerance for bullying?

Last week my son was suspended from school for one day following an incident where he grabbed another child by the back of the neck. My son explained this was done in retaliation because this other kid has been bullying him all year long. Essentially he just couldn’t take it anymore and acted out, according to him.

There are a few issues there and several people dropped the ball at the school and at home about the bullying that was going on.

    My son told me in the beginning of the year that a kid was calling him names and I told him to ignore the kid. He never really raised the issue again so I thought the problem was resolved. I should have followed up and I didn’t, mistake number one on my part.

    My son reported it to his teacher (who told him to ignore it), and two other teachers. Those three individuals did nothing with the exception of telling him to ignore it. He did get a new teacher half-way through the school year but never reported it to her. Now the two other teachers acknowledge that he told them and they witnessed it but they believed his main teacher would address it. He new teacher wasn’t told by my son but if other teachers witnessed it going on I find it odd that his main teacher never witnessed a thing. Not saying it isn’t possible but if the kid doing the bullying didn’t bother to hide in front of other teachers why hide it in front of the main teacher.

So last week I spoke to his teacher and told her what had been reported and asked about the bullying and she said she never witnessed any thing going on at all. I expressed concern that three other teachers had seen it yet, in her class where he was the most, she never saw it. I asked her to address it and told her who the other teachers were that had seen it so she could confer with them on the issue.

I made mistake number two in believing that NOW that the teacher was aware of the problem she would address it.

Today I get a call from the principal. I am thinking that the bullying issue was looked into and she was calling with the resolution to the problem. But oh no was I in for a big shock. She instead tells me that there is a problem with my son and his teacher. The teacher has now reported that she feels threatened by my son and intimidated by me so they are going to move my son to a new class. WHAT!!!!. Now I have spoken to this woman and the conversation was pleasant, calm and quite normal for a parent teacher conversation on both sides. There was a third person there as well and he portrays the conversation in the same manner. Another teacher witnessed part of the conversation and that teacher as well portrayed it in the same normal manner. So how she feels intimated by me is a mystery. Why she didn’t report this intimidation by me a week ago again is a mystery. She also never mentioned any thing about feeling threatened by my son or even that she had any problems with him.

Anyhow they are going to move my son to a new classroom for the remaining 18 days of school due to this teacher’s complaint that she feels threatened. I expressed my amazement at that being the reason for the move as there is no history or prior incidents to warrant her sudden and new founded “fear”. However, I am glad he is being moved due to the kid bullying him and the teacher apparently not wanting to address it.

The main issue here for me is that we have a teacher who did nothing after it was reported to her that bullying was going on in her classroom. I say she did nothing when in reality she did something, she made a false complaint to have my son removed from her class so she could pass the issue off to someone else. It astounds me that instead of addressing the issue she creates a new one. Her sudden feeling that my son is a threat to her and that I intimated her seem quite coincidental. So instead of addressing the real concern which should have long before now been addressed, bullying going on in her classroom that she was either truly oblivious too or just too lazy to deal with, she has created a new issue that is blatantly false to redirect attention from the fact that she is not doing her job.

As for her statement now that she feels threatened and intimidated well I am not really concerned about that. My interactions with her were limited and there was always another person present so she has no basis for her sudden new found “fear”. It is just a deflection from the fact that she didn’t address an issue going on in her classroom with her students. By making her complaint it enabled her to have my son removed from her class so she wouldn’t have to deal with what was occurring. If this is the way teachers are going to deal with bullying in the schools then those signs that say zero tolerance mean little more than zero tolerance for reporting it and addressing it.

Now I recognize the teacher is not the only problem here. I failed to follow up when I should have and I believed the teacher would address the issue after it was reported to her. His original teacher saying just ignore it, wasn’t really the right approach. The other two teachers assuming it was being addressed also not the correct approach. However, what his current teacher is doing is just sad. She failed to address a legitimate concern of a student. Regardless of whether she witnessed it or not, it was reported to her a week ago. Even if she never witnessed it, she still should have looked into the fact that it was being reported now to ensure no further bullying occurred.

Just for the record, my son is no angel. He is a good kid in general and overall but he can have his moments and an attitude at times. He was very much in the wrong for grabbing another kid for any reason. I am proud of him though for standing up for himself when the people who should have been standing up for him failed to do their job. He tried to follow the system and the rules and reported it but when that didn’t work he stood up for himself and I can’t fault him there. He served his suspension at home in his room with a book and lost all privileges to the coveted X-Box for a week. I may be proud of him for standing up for himself but I am not proud that he touched another kid in anyway. Now his father and I just need to help him find a better and more constructive way to stand up for himself that doesn’t involve grabbing the other kid by the back of the neck.

The principal, who by the way, was completely unaware of the bullying says she will look into it. It does so amaze me that an incident occurred a week ago where a child was suspended and reports of bullying officially made in writing and yet the principal had no knowledge of it until I told her today.

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  1. […] bullying in school first hand through my own son, who was bullied and the school did nothing.   Bullying in School and Bullying in the Schools (yes I know how original with the second title) tell the tale.   This […]

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