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Wednesday April 25th 2018

It Is All About The Add-Ons

mom says

Last weekend, I made the mistake of walking into my local convenience store all dressed to the nines.  Hair and make-up done.  High heels and a dress even.  I looked pretty spectacular if I do say so myself.  It was a mistake though.

I go into the this particular store quite often, it is my go to store for convenience stuff.  They see me at my worst because I just don’t care.  I have been in at 6am in my PJs (which are super cute) and slippers to get the milk that I forgot to get the day before.  I have been in after spending the day cleaning with grease marks and dirt under my nails looking like I hadn’t showered in weeks.  Its a convenience store for goodness sakes who cares, right?

When I made my appearance all done up, the clerks definitely noticed, it was flattering I won’t lie.  The first guy is a young kid, lets say mid to late twenties and cute.  Normally he doesn’t say much but the obligatory greeting.  His normal work partner is an older guy in his early forties and is a very friendly guy.  He always finds some nice compliment to make even if it is just to tell my he likes my PJs (ok so I have done it more than once).

I go to the store to get a soda like normal and had to endure a crazy conversation.  I was wearing pink sorta sweat pants and a black t-shirt and my black slippers.  Yes I know pink pants black shirt don’t go together but its the convenience store.  The same two clerks were there and as soon as I walked in I could tell something was up.  They were looking at me funny, I was sure they were.  I began to do that mental check and cursory look you do when you realize someone is staring at you.  I wanted to make sure nothing was out of place or showing that shouldn’t be showing.

I wasn’t being paranoid they were looking at me funny.  When I got to the counter the older guy said, “don’t take this the wrong way but what happened to you?”.  I questioned his question and he explained he and the young kid were wondering why I go out of my way to look, well like I did this day, when I could look amazing like I did the other night.  Are they nuts?  I don’t go out of my way to look bad, bad is what they meant don’t be fooled.  I explained that I went out of my way to look good the other night not the other way around.  This is how I always look this is the rule, the other night was the exception.

My mistake, you see, was setting a new rule in their eyes.  They were fine with the PJs (ok I do it all the time, stop judging me) and ponytail but now that they saw better they want better all the time.  Well, they can’t have it.  Guys say they want MaryAnn but they really want Ginger!  That is a Gilligan’s Island reference for you young people out there…Google it.

The older guy told me that they had thought I was beautiful (awww how sweet…wait what? had thought?? past tense??) but the other night they saw how beautiful I really am {sigh, really?}.  They were just wondering why I would choose to look like {he waves his hand up and down in my direction} when I could look like I did the other night.  Now that all sounds complimentary on the surface but it isn’t really.  Basically they are saying we thought you were pretty but now that we have seen you prettier, we no longer find you pretty unless you are prettier.  Haha read that last sentence twice, it does make sense.

Boys are evil….throw stuff at them!  How they see me everyday is real.  What they saw the other night is fake.  The make-up, hair, dress and high-heels are add-ons.  They are just accessories to take the so-so pretty and make it amazing pretty every once in awhile.  I have no desire to set up some unrealistic standard that I can never live up too.  I am a single mom, with 4 boys, in my thirties this is what I look like most of the time.  Now every time I walk into the store they are going to be looking at me and shaking their little heads wondering why I have once again ventured out in public looking like I do instead of how I could.  Just for the record I look decent even in my PJs.  I don’t go out looking like a slob or anything.

I am going to show you side by side the difference below of the hair and make-up, I am too lazy to do all the clothes too.  Don’t ask me why, but I am still surprised so many men are hung up on this beauty thing.  Women can’t be amazingly beautiful all the time.  That only happens in the movies, Playboy and fashion magazines.  Even some of the most beautiful women in the world are only that beautiful due to the “add ons”.  Women are beautiful period and men should learn to appreciate the natural beauty because at the end of the day that is what they will end up with.  At the end of the day, the make-up will wash off, the hair will go into a ponytail and the comfy clothes will go on.  That is what they will get 90% of the time.  It is just hair and make-up gentlemen its not real.  It may be prettier but it still is not real.

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Fresh out of the shower. No add-ons, no enhancements just all natural.

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Here is the hair, make-up and well asset enhancement (figure out which asset on your own :0 ):

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Final product because that is all it really is with all the add-ons 😀

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18 Responses to “It Is All About The Add-Ons”

  1. Bob says:
    I would do the hell out of you. I would do the hell out of your “assets”
    • mom says:
      I have gotten three emails asking why I don’t remove this comment. I don’t remove it because it doesn’t bother or offend me in the slightest. Some women were given nice eyes or lips or mouths….I was given those, and not until after I had my first child at 21. I appreciate them and don’t mind others doing the same. Call me crazy it is just who I am 🙂
  2. mikeylee31 says:
    Wow if I knew you looked like this I would have come back sooner and much more often…you are beautiful.
  3. guyonacorner says:
    you can’t just “say” the pjs are super cute…bring on the pjs…you are super cute
  4. Hoover says:
    I agree 100%
  5. nick koutsoumbis says:
    wow such happy memories

    thankyou very much

  6. Steven says:
    Good blog post. I like the site. Keep up the good work. I have just bookmarked your site.
  7. steve ampar says:
    thanks
  8. carol_007 says:
    Interesting thoughts here. I appreciate you taking the time to share them with us all. It’s people like you that make my day 🙂
  9. MrBlend says:
    You are one sexy mom!
  10. london-mum says:
    I just wanted to say thanks as a mother who blogs, posts like these keep me occupied while the kids are asleep!

    I noticed you have a Facebook icon on your site. I got a nice free one at http://tiny.cc/momsicons if you want to update yours, I’m sure you’ll find something nice 😀

    Oh, baby is waking up, I will read more next time!

  11. Bruno Bucaram says:
    I like your post 3) I’ll surely be peeping into it again soon! ;>
  12. carlos says:
    i still think the eyes and the sound of your voice are your’e best assets.

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