You had to know I was going to go here – no matter how perfect the date turned out to be. It did turn out perfectly. I looked amazing which made me feel amazing making things go a little easier. There is a lot to be said for self-confidence which I was admittedly lacking due to the last guy I dated.
Here are some basic tips for things to avoid doing on a first date. These apply to men and women!
1. Don’t be late. If you are unavoidably late, call immediately and let the person know don’t just leave them hanging. If your date is 30 minutes late and you haven’t heard from them, stop waiting, they are most likely not coming. If your date doesn’t show at all, don’t bother rescheduling. It is about a 99:1 odds against there being legitimate reason for them not showing up at all.
2. Don’t skip on the proper grooming. Don’t go crazy either. The day of a first date is not the day to get your first ever Brazilian wax, try out some new fad hair dye or have your back waxed for the first time. The basics work here. Do your normal routine which hopefully consist of showering, shaving, combing your hair you know the easy stuff.
3. Don’t dress to impress. Seriously on this one. Dress in what makes you confident and comfortable and appropriate for the place you will be going. If you dress outside of your comfort zone on that first date it is noticeable. You are already going to be a little self-conscious so don’t make it worse by dressing in clothes that make look great on the store mannequin but your not 100% comfortable wearing. Ladies this means don’t go buy six-inch heels because you see the ladies in Sex and the City wear them to look sexy. If you aren’t comfortable in six-inch heels and truly who is then you will look awkward not sexy.
4. Skip those few beers or glasses of wine before the date. Yeah I know first dates can be nerve wracking but if you throw back a few before the date and then have a few on the date, it could go bad quickly. A beer or glass of wine while you are getting ready is fine, if you really feel you need something. Remember it is usually only the first couple of minutes that are the most nerve wracking and you can always have a glass when you get there. Avoid getting liquored up completely at anytime on the first date.
5. This is mainly for the ladies – eat some damn food. Ordering just a salad to look all precious and danity is ridicolous. Men know that women eat and more than just salads. If you are like most women you will have avoided food for a few days before the date and the day of the date to look good so by all means once you get there eat something before you pass out.
6. This is common sense but still has to be repeated. Do not spend the entire date talking about your ex. Your date doesn’t care about your ex and they don’t want to hear about your ex. They are there to get to know you not your ex.
7. Don’t exaggerate about who you are or what you like and don’t like. This is the perfect time to get to know the person and see if you have anything in common. If you lie about who you are or what you like and don’t like to please or impress your date and get that coveted second date, it will come back to haunt you. He says he likes hockey and you hate it but say you like it, your second date could be at a hockey game and oh what fun that won’t be for you. Keep it simple and true. If you have nothing in common there is no need to waste time on a second date. Your big likes and dislikes aren’t going to change and who you are isn’t going to change so no sense pretending.
8. It is said you shouldn’t talk to much on a first date. I am not convinced of that one. I naturally talk a lot and I know this and I know I will always talk a lot so why pretend on the first date that I don’t do it. If it is going to annoy your date that you talk a lot might as well find that out on the first date. I would say don’t chatter away about absolutely nothing just to feel the silence but if you have something relevant to say talking like you normally do should be fine.
9. Don’t lay out your life plan or ask tons of personal questions. This is a first date so keep it easy and light. Neither side wants to hear about biological clocks ticking or talk about their deepest darkest secrets on date one when they haven’t even decided if there is going to be a date two. In fact, you will probably ensure there isn’t a date if you get too carried away.
10. Don’t agree to a second date if you have no intention of actually going on a second date. Don’t say you will call if you know you won’t. End the evening with, “I had a nice time.” or “It was pleasant getting to know you.” if you know you aren’t going to call them. Women and men seem to feel obligated to end the date with, “I will call you.”. You don’t have to say that especially if you know you aren’t going to call. If someone asks you point blank for a second date and you don’t want to go, politely decline. You are under no obligation to explain why you don’t want a second date and if they push for a reason then that alone can be the reason.
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